Let’s just get straight to the point here. These over-the-top breastfeeding photos have got to stop.
Please, please, please make them stop.
You want to know why your Instagram account was closed because of nudity? Because you exposed your entire bosom to the world!
I can’t make any apologies here, ladies. It’s out of control.
These images are saturating my social media accounts, and I can’t seem to get away from them.
You can run, but you can’t hide. (Please excuse me, I think I got a little carried away there.)
Thank goodness for unfollow feature on social media!
Friends, I am a big fan of nursing those babies – yes, even in public! I think God put that milk in there for a reason and intends for us to use it if we’re able, but He has also called us to a life of discretion. Maybe for you that means that you don’t nurse in public – I get it. For me, it means that I try to do most of my nursing at home, but I carry a cover for when baby gets hungry and I have no other option.
As part of our calling to discretion, I find myself cringing over the current trend of using social media as an outlet for posting graphic breastfeeding photos. I mean, where are we going to draw the line with our oversharing?
Is anything private anymore?
Is anything precious enough to keep sacred?
Is it possible for us to do anything without feeling the need to snap a photo and post?
At this point in my life, I have spent a total of three years (Yes, three years!) nursing my babies, and what a gift it has been. I’ve been so thankful that my body has allowed me to do it, and I have felt good about feeding my babies that way. Yes, it’s natural. #naturalbreastfeeding Yes, it’s normal. #normalizebreastfeeding However, there are lots of natural and normal things I do that I don’t document with photos and share with the world.
There are very normal, natural things that happen in my bathroom everyday – Wanna see a picture? Didn’t think so. There are very normal, natural things that happen in my bedroom…with my husband…when we find 5-minutes to be alone…but you can bet your bottom dollar I won’t be sharing about it on Instagram.
What is the motive behind posting these oftentimes incredibly graphic, borderline pornographic nursing photos?
To raise awareness? I think we’re all aware that women have boobs that can be used to nurse babies.
For bragging rights? Admit it. We’re all guilty of posting things because we want to look good to others.
Whatever the motive, it seems to me that the images do nothing but anger moms who have chosen formula…and sadden moms who are physically unable to nurse their little ones. C’mon, should our intention ever be to anger other moms? Or sadden them? Or make them feel less than? No way, Jose’.
Are you with me here? Have you seen these photos in your feeds? Am I the only one who finds themselves blushing at how much is able to be seen in these [sometimes professionally-taken] snapshots? Am I the only one not interested in their husband seeing pictures from Ample Allie’s latest photo session where she is sensually posed in the water with Thelma & Louise fulled exposed? Good grief.
Let’s consider the babies that are included in these scenes…babies that are going to someday become adults…adults who may not want to see some of the things their parents shared of them on-line. When they’re older, how are they going to feel about these pictures? Some will oddly join their parents in thinking the photos are beautiful or artistic or whatever. Hey, they might even frame the photos and place them on their mantle for house guests to enjoy. However, many are going to think it’s weird…and Oh my gosh, I can’t believe you posted that, Mom!
I am so thankful my mother doesn’t have infant photos of me tugging on her chest at mealtime…and to think that pictures like that would be floating around the Internet for all the world to see? I would be mortified.
I think that’s one of the most important things to consider in all of this: the child.
On social media, we have taken liberties to overshare in ways that will effect our children in the future…without stopping to consider the seriousness of that. I have several friends who have decided not to publish any on-line photos of their children, and I have to say that I can completely understand the reasoning behind their decision. I appreciate the way they are respecting their children and giving them the freedom to tell their own story on line – from beginning to end.
If you follow along with me on social media, you will see photos of my children. I love sharing their smiles with you, but I do my best to always share images that highlight all of the wonderful things that I love about them – without giving away those private, intimate moments that were designed to be kept within the walls of our home.
Will you join me in keeping sacred the private moments of motherhood?
Love Your Breast Friend,
(I’m sorry…I just couldn’t help myself.)